Why a blog? Well….
Hello readers, welcome to my blog. The reason why i started, or am thinking about making this a hobby is because, well when i have free time, why not share my stories with you all. I am a first time mommy of an 8 month old and man is it tough. For a while now I’ve been trying to think about ways i can reach out to you and make a place were we can all chat and share our crazy stories. God knows we have a whole lot of them! Also, as a mommy who has time to worry about making ourselves look pretty right? well, im here to tell you its all possible. How we feel, and our self esteem is a big part of keeping ourselves feeling beautiful and amazing. which is why i decided to give my blog the name Being a mommy & beauty. Feeling good about ourselves is a must. Of course no ones lives are perfect and we all need that someone to be there for us when we need help. That is the main reason for me wanting to make this blog. So i can have a chance in being that someone were you can feel free to ask questions and even just want to talk about a specific subject, i am here.
I’m sure soo many of you have experienced something negative with the ex. Wether it’s an ex boyfriend/girlfriend. Sometimes dealing with them comes with the package especially if your significant other has kids. I want to share a recent experiance of mine with the ex girlfriend 😣. If you have read my recent blogs I’m sure you would have already learned that I am a stay at home mom. Before the pregnancy I worked for 7 years as a veterinarian technician at a very busy animal Hospital. Saying that, I’m used to working. It has been a very big part of my life. Due to breast feeding and the lack of having someone trustworthy to take care of my son I’ve had to leave my job to be a full time mommy. One day, as my son was asleep I looked on Indeed and for some reoson I just had the urge to update my resume. And so I did. The next day I got a call from a call center wanting to schedule an interview. I thought it was wierd because I didn’t have much experiance to qualify for a call center rep. I have more hands on experience drawing blood etc. But I didnt think too much of it. I tell the rep that I will have to wait for my fiance to come home to discuss the situation. She says “no problem” and that was that. The next day I get another call from the same call center. She seems a little more pushy this time and asks if I have talked to my fiance. I say no, and tell her that I will call them back if and when I make a decision. She said ok, and hung up. In my mind I’m thinking that normally when places want to hire they aren’t as insistent because they have plenty of applications they go thru. But again, I don’t think much of it and let it go. Now moving on to another story, both stories will combine shortly 😏. I get along very well with my fiancé family. We spend alot of time together and of course they met the ex, before me. They mention her here and there and tell me crazy stories about her. (She wasn’t liked much) one of his cousins tell me that the ex had recently contacted her via instagram asking questions about my fiancé. Like how is he doing? Is he happy? Etc. The cousin ignores her of course. The ex sends 2 more of his cousins friend requests back to back over and over again as I’m sitting right besides them. I have to admit, I got really upset. A week before she had sent me 4 friend request in a row so in my mind I’m thinking she’s really nosey and desperate. As im Sitting there seeing his cousins deny her request AGAIN I got livid and decided to send her a nice little message on facebook. She seemed like she needed answers so I gave them to her. I’m not gonna go too much into detail on what I wrote in my message but I told her how it is. She responded angrily of course and she said that she was the one whom was Contacting me for an interview! 😐😣😟 when I read that I was soo upset. She knew it was me, the girlfriend. She went out of her way to than contact my fiance (her ex) and ask him why I don’t work. And why I don’t want an interview. Like really? How bad of a psycho are you? To go out of your way, Find my info, than try to schedule an interview! Of course me and her continued to go back and forth in the messages and she later tells me that she, herself in engaged. Ok? Than why are you bothering me, contacting my man, and trying to do psycho shit (excuse my language). I was going nowere talking to her so I blocked her. I was waisting my time. It’s insane how someone can do this. Are you unhappy? Miserable? Why try to cause drama? I got a nice little laugh out of this,well, after being upset 😣
So, this was my crazy experiance. What’s yours?
So today, I want to talk about something slightly different. Of course with being a mommy, you have your significant other. Being a mommy is hard work but when your boyfriend/husband travels for work, it makes it 10x harder. My boyfriend works for a union and travels for work. Sometimes I see him daily, sometimes he’s out for a week or even longer. Having your partner travel is hard because you feel like a piece of you is away. My son loves his daddy, he video chats and smiles every time he hears his voice. And it kills me inside because I know his dad wishes he can experiance every little thing the baby is doing. It also gives us a chance to get spark back into our relationship. When seeing eachother every day it doesn’t allow you or him to miss eachother. And sometimes that’s all a relationship needs. When you are together 24/7 fights start to happen, you start wanting to want time alone etc. 2 months ago we were both working from home and of course we wanted to eat eachother alive. But I believe everything happens s for a reoson and sometimes change is good. But everything comes with a flaw. Nothing is perfect. If you have your significant other traveling for work when you’re at home tell me how you deal with it. Tell me your story 🙂
So, lately my son has been having little accidents while he is in his car seat. At first I was like hmmmm, strange. He never 💩 in his car seat but I didn’t pay any mind to it. The next day it happened again, and again…….and…….again. I’m still here thinking maybe a coincidence? But every time? 🤔And of course it’s one of those were you pull him out of his car seat and I mean, it’s everywere! 😣poor guy. But why? Why poop when you’re in your carseat? I can’t help but think it’s hilarious, well, not soo much when we are out in public and I have nowere to clean him 😭
Alot of us know how hard it can be to be a mommy and continue to love being into ourselves as well. When I say to be into ourselves I mean, beauty. Make up, hair, mani/pedis etc. When I found out I was pregnant, I was always worried about wether or not my life would change for myself. Alot of women would tell me it’s not about YOU anymore. So however you look will not matter anymore. I’m sure alot of mommy’s feel this way so I thought starting a blog about my thoughts and experiences would make a difference. I’m here to tell you beautiful mommas that YOU and how YOU feel still matter. If you want to feel beautiful and want to continue dressing up, curling your hair, doing your full on make up, DO IT. Yes, maybe your baby will pull your hair and smear your lipstick and make you not want to go thru all the trouble. Making ourselves feel pretty is important. I mean, who doesn’t want to feel pretty. Nottingham hat you need make-up and curled hair to do so, but most of us like myself do these things to help myself feel more confident. It’s more of a comforting feeling it gives me. Don’t let anyone tell you your life is over when you become a mommy, in my opinion your life is just beginning. 💛💜💙💚